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The Five Worst Reasons To Stay In A Lousy Job

by / April 20, 2016

If you are wary of leaving a bad work situation in case the next one is even worse, you are not alone. The No. 1 sentiment I hear from unhappy working people is, “My job is bad, but I don’t want to job-hunt!”

I have to tell you something. That sentiment doesn’t make sense. If there is one employer who will pay you 10 bucks an hour or 50 bucks an hour or whatever you get paid, there are others who will do the same thing. That’s how supply and demand work.

Whatever you get paid, that’s the sum you know you can command at other employers. Maybe you are underpaid and can command more. If you are unhappy at work, you can improve your situation by launching a stealth job search and getting a new job before you quit the old one.

A lot of people are afraid to job-hunt while they’re working. They say, “What if my boss finds out?” They say, “What if I can’t get any interviews?”

If your boss finds out you’re job-hunting, you’ll have a more honest conversation with him or her than you may have had in a long time. If you can’t get interviews, then you’ll have received a message from the Reality Channel.

The message will tell you that you have to rewrite your resume or change your job-search approach, or both. This is the only way we learn — by trying things and seeing what happens.

We all rationalize. I stayed in a job I hated until it made me sick and put me in the hospital. That was my wake-up call. I’ve stayed in romantic relationships longer I should have and stayed with the wrong voice teacher too long. One way or the other we finally get the message.

If you are wary of leaving a bad work situation in case the next one is even worse, you are not alone. The No. 1 sentiment I hear from unhappy working people is, “My job is bad, but I don’t want to job-hunt!”

I have to tell you something. That sentiment doesn’t make sense. If there is one employer who will pay you 10 bucks an hour or 50 bucks an hour or whatever you get paid, there are others who will do the same thing. That’s how supply and demand work.

Whatever you get paid, that’s the sum you know you can command at other employers. Maybe you are underpaid and can command more. If you are unhappy at work, you can improve your situation by launching a stealth job search and getting a new job before you quit the old one.
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A lot of people are afraid to job-hunt while they’re working. They say, “What if my boss finds out?” They say, “What if I can’t get any interviews?”

If your boss finds out you’re job-hunting, you’ll have a more honest conversation with him or her than you may have had in a long time. If you can’t get interviews, then you’ll have received a message from the Reality Channel.

The message will tell you that you have to rewrite your resume or change your job-search approach, or both. This is the only way we learn — by trying things and seeing what happens.

We all rationalize. I stayed in a job I hated until it made me sick and put me in the hospital. That was my wake-up call. I’ve stayed in romantic relationships longer I should have and stayed with the wrong voice teacher too long. One way or the other we finally get the message.

Maybe this column will deliver that message to you! You can change jobs and this is a great time to do it.

Here are five horrible reasons for staying in a job that doesn’t use your talents, doesn’t pay you what you’re worth and/or sucks away your precious mojo — your life force:

1. I stay in this job for my kids.

2. I stay here because they need me here.

3. I stay in this job because I’m over 50 and it might be hard to get a new job.

4. I stay because it’s close to my house and I know how to do the job.

5. I stay here because I don’t have to be passionate about my work. I have passions that I pursue outside of work.

Let’s demolish these five excuses one by one.

Your kids don’t want you to be unhappy. I’m not suggesting that you give notice at work today, leave your job in two weeks and take your chances with the job market and paying your bills.

You don’t need to step that far out into the risk zone. You can keep your job and find a new job at the same time. How would that hurt your kids?

If they need you at your job, they should show you that they need you. A lot of working people delude themselves that their bosses rely on them when the boss’s true feeling is, “One warm body is as good as another.”

Actions speak louder than words. If you don’t feel the love at work, why would those people deserve your talents for another month, much less the rest of 2016?

It’s scary to put yourself out there and potentially to be judged by other people. It makes you feel vulnerable when you step out into the public eye, even in a job search.

As a job-seeker you have to get on the phone with strange people and walk into strange offices. People will look at you, look at your clothes and evaluate your speech and your stories. Of course that’s intimidating. It takes courage to step into scary situations like a job search.

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Let’s demolish these five excuses one by one.

Your kids don’t want you to be unhappy. I’m not suggesting that you give notice at work today, leave your job in two weeks and take your chances with the job market and paying your bills.

You don’t need to step that far out into the risk zone. You can keep your job and find a new job at the same time. How would that hurt your kids?

If they need you at your job, they should show you that they need you. A lot of working people delude themselves that their bosses rely on them when the boss’s true feeling is, “One warm body is as good as another.”

Actions speak louder than words. If you don’t feel the love at work, why would those people deserve your talents for another month, much less the rest of 2016?

It’s scary to put yourself out there and potentially to be judged by other people. It makes you feel vulnerable when you step out into the public eye, even in a job search.

 

As a job-seeker you have to get on the phone with strange people and walk into strange offices. People will look at you, look at your clothes and evaluate your speech and your stories. Of course that’s intimidating. It takes courage to step into scary situations like a job search.

 

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What else have we gained from our half-century on earth if not that courage? People over 50, 60 and 70 have a right to bring themselves to a job search and every other project they take on. The only way we learn anything new is by trying new things.

No job is going to take you through to retirement. You’re going to have to get good at job-hunting — even more than getting good at doing the job! Why not start right now? You don’t have to accept a new job unless it meets all of your requirements. You are in the driver’s seat.

As for having trouble finding a job, here’s a tip: Focus not on your “skills” but on understanding the Business Pain you solve – that’s where your power in the job-search equation lies!

If the job is close to your house and you know the procedures like the back of your hand, those cozy conveniences can keep you stuck in a stupor for years. One day something will happen to wake you up. It could be a few bars of a favorite song that you hear while you’re standing in line at the grocery store.

It could be a dream you have one night or a chance remark you overhear at the gym. Something will nudge you to ask, “Why am I settling to give my time and energy to a job that sucks me dry?” You deserve better. You deserve to work with great people who appreciate you.

You deserve to use your brain and heart at work and not to skulk around in fear of a nasty manager who doesn’t treat you well. You deserve whatever you tell yourself you’re worth.

Not everyone finds their passion in their work. Some people go to work to pay the bills and do what they love after hours. Here’s a question to ask yourself: Is this my choice? Do I want to have fun after work and slog through the day at work — is that the highest and best I get to ask for?

If it’s your choice to arrange your life in such a way that your work is just a way to fund your passions, that’s great. If you’re settling for that arrangement because you don’t think you deserve more or you don’t feel up to the task of stepping into the life you want, then your next steps are clear.

You can change your life whenever you are ready. You can take a small step, like updating your LinkedIn profile. (Turn off notifications to your contacts before you do it.) You can reconnect with your network or begin to build a network if you’ve never had one.

You can think about and write about the career you want. What’s in your way? Don’t let these five flimsy excuses slow you down!

By Liz Ryan, Via Forbes

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